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The sadist in the sadomasochistic pair is the person who inflicts the pain or punishment; the masochist is the person who submits to the pain, humiliation or control of his or her partner. What appears to the outsider to be painful, even very painful, is experienced as somewhat painful but mostly pleasurable and very sexually arousing to the sadomasochist. Many people who do not think of themselves as SM practitioners enjoy giving and receiving hickeys, bites, scratches and spankings during passionate sex. Sadomasochists simply extend this to include other tool such as whips, slappers, paddles, clothes pins and so forth. The important thing to remember is that consensual sadists inflict pain only on people who enjoy receiving it. So what they are really "inflicting" is pleasure. In the upside down world of SM, the sadist may look like a bully who is tormenting a helpless victim. In reality, the sadist may be working hard to provide the masochist with the kind of experience he or she craves. An experienced sadist might start with just a small amount of pain, known as a "warm up". This will cause endorphins to be released. This will enable the masochist to tolerate more pain. Gradually, the sadist will increase the a