Hays suggests that not only at odds with the welfare of the mother, intensive mothering is an ideology that supports the desires of men, the middle class, whites and capitalism in general because if helps to perpetuate the status quo in which women are the agents of child-care, no matter what the costs.
"Mommy WarsaE, a false social phenomenon (according to Hays) that is supposedly widely held by mothers, suggests that there exists an intrinsic divide between stay-at-home moms and mothers who work for pay outside the home. One group of mothers, say, the working group, is said to criticize stay-at-home mothers' lifestyle, labeling them "lazyaE or unproductive to society. Simultaneously, stay-at-home mothers are purported to condemn working mothers for their selfish lack of engagement in the home and toward a mother's child-rearing responsibilities.
However, in Hays' own research, that no such fundamental tendency existed, but rather "mommy warsaE were a culturally constructed phenomenon not generally embraced by mothers themselves. On the contrary, Hays found mothers to be supportive of other mo